Birth Stories - Should You Listen to Them?

Man, do I love a good birth story!  

Every woman remembers the day they gave birth like it was yesterday and now that you are pregnant, 2 things you didn’t expect will happen:

  1. Strangers will start touching your belly around the 2nd and 3rd trimester. 
  2. The second the world knows your expecting, women from all over will start telling you ALL the JUICY DETAILS of their birth experience. The good, the bad and sometimes TMI. 

I am sad to say that most women you encounter will de-value their birth experience and deep personal wisdom from being pregnant and giving birth.  But no matter what experience they may have had there still is a profound understanding of birth.  They might not be aware of it but it is there. Pregnancy and birth forever changes a woman.  Even their brains are a little different.  Pregnancy and childbirth are transformative for every woman no matter what experience they have.

I LOVE a birth story, I have since I was 12 years old!!!  Believe me, every-time without fail, when a woman finds out what I do, the flood gates open and we are reliving the birth story of her child.  Now it is only natural to be curious about other people's birth experiences, especially because your trying to figure out what to expect of childbirth.  But keep in mind, every woman is different and so is every birth story!  So if the curiosity has consumed you...... ask questions that will help you feel more confident going into your birth and it may even help them process their birth story just a little differently.  

Ask them the following questions:

  • What helped you most when you gave birth?
  • What was your spiritual experience of giving birth?
  • If you could do it again, what would you do the same?
  • Is there anything you would do differently?
  • What do you wish you had known beforehand?

Kerri Walsh Jennings, 3 times gold medalist told ESPN that giving birth makes her feel like "Wonder Woman" and went on to explain that "[e]verything else seems minor compared to the soul-shaking thing that is labor. ... I respect my body more than I have in my life. It's not perfect, but I can't tell you how proud I am of my body."

The birth of your baby will be unique to you and your baby.  It will be your own story, one you will never forget.  Remember if you are hearing negative birth experience it is okay to say. “I am sorry you experienced that but I am wanting to experience birth for myself and don’t want any expectations. “